We must say to ourself, that it’s up to me to get it done.

If you are like many of us who constantly have trouble remaining focused on your goals.  You are either spreading yourself too thin or focusing on the wrong goals.  At some point you have to say “It’s up to me”, to get the job done.

We share the principle of picking approximately three goals that are most important, and stick to them. We should not burden ourselves with any other goals until these goals are achieved (or unless priorities shift and these goals no longer reflect what we want in life).

Our highest priority goal is to impact more people through yourrelationshipsmatter.com and social media pages, so we get up early and maximize our time to accomplish this.

The majority of our time during the week is spent working with clients, preparing workshops, writing for YRM, engaging with readers, responding to your emails and developing topics based on your feedback. If we are caught up spending too much time with something else, it’s a sign to us that we are off-track.

This intentional focus has allowed us to make more progress, compared to when we juggle multiple goals and make little progress in them.

It's Up To Me

Create a vision board

A vision board is a combination of notes, pictures and images that represent your goals and dreams. Creating a vision board helps us to visualize our end goals more clearly, which inspires us to take consistent action.

Also, it also serves to remind us of our goals every day when we see the board. We have a vision board in our office which I see every time I’m in here. Every time I see our board, it reinforces our goals to me, and reminds me to take action to keep moving forward.
If you have never created a vision board, search online for examples that speak to you.

Create milestones

If you just set one major goal, it can be discouraging – especially when you don’t achieve it quickly. When that happens, some of us may procrastinate on the goal altogether – which is quite unfortunate.

I find it helpful to break big goals into smaller goals. Then I can concentrate on achieving the smaller goals in the short term.

When I had to drive seven hours to school for my doctorate studies; I stopped every two hours to relax my legs and let the car cool off, take a restroom break, get a snack and beverage. Then, I would continue the journey.

Create a plan

If we have a plan worked out for our goal, it becomes much easier to stick to it. All we have to do is to follow the actions we have planned for the day. The best time to work out our plan is when we set the goal, because that’s when our motivation is the highest. I have learned to create my goal action plans right after I set my goal, after which I take action immediately – which helps me create a positive momentum.

Track your results

It’s important for me to track the results of what I do.  When I don’t, I feel like my actions are not making a difference. So, every time we work on a goal, we should identify a couple of performance metrics, then track those metrics daily/weekly.

They are our connection to the end goal, because they let us know whether we are on track or off track, which in turn lets us know whether to tweak our actions or not.

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Learn to say no

Do you often put your goals aside for other people? It’s okay to do that once or twice, but if you keep doing it, something is wrong. You can’t always put your life on hold for others! I understand that some people have trouble saying no to others. Until you realize that you are just doing yourself and dreams a disservice then you will learn the power of saying no.


You have gotten where you are by doing what you do best. You have been inspired by the best people around you. So when it comes to being better on purpose, do the same. Click here to contact us. I can promise that you will be glad you did because your relationships matter.